6 things I’ve Learned So Far… Birthday Edition

Happy Monday!!!

Since it’s my b-day (WHOOP WHOOP), I figured I’d compile a little list of some of the most important things I’ve learned thus far. There are so many things about my 20s that were incredible, and I learned so so so much. Cheers to this past year being one I’ll never forget! Toasting to 31 and making it another year to remember 🙂

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So here’s what I got:

1.) THERE WILL ALWAYS BE HATERS, EMBRACE IT & KEEP IT MOVIN

Honestly, this is number one for a reason. We’ve all been criticized at one time or another. You gotta do what you gotta do, & either way someone, somewhere will have something to say. Bloggers are always putting themselves out there so is always constant criticism. You gotta shake it off and always do what you love to do!

2.) BUDGET

Ughhhh this is one of those things they need to teach in college. My tip…download a budgeting app on your phone or use the envelope system. Also, it’s okay to have a credit card. You may just have to learn the hard way like I did that it’s not free money to go shopping all the time :/

3.) DON’T BE AN ASSHOLE

We’ve all been there. You are in a hurry getting Starbucks so you mouth off to the barista. The line at Target is a mile long so you complain to the manager and have “that moment.” You go off at the post office worker because your box is not the correct one… You know asshole moments! Being a bitch is nasty. Patience has become my very best friend, especially after having kids. Smile, be gracious, be kind, & be humble.

4.) YOU NEVER KNOW…

 Don’t judge until you’ve walked in someone’s shoes. People assume they know everything about me because a lot of my life is documented through social media. I have had some folks say some pretty mean things without knowing anything about me. There will always be haters and I knew that coming into the blogging world. But don’t judge a book by its cover because you never know. Life online looks flawless, #blessed, & glamourous. Always be kind to everyone no matter the circumstance… Appreciate the small things 🙂

5.) YOU CANNOT CHANGE PEOPLE.

This is PROBABLY THE HARDEST THING EVER FOR ME. For years I would try to control the outcome of family drama, friendships, work, etc. This year I’ve realized that ‘it is, what it is’. Me trying to control the situation & change people into something they’re not is counterproductive & pointless. You can get what you can get, or you don’t. Life isn’t fair or unfair, unless you cultivate that— focus on moving forward & don’t worry about what other people are doing…remember as Bethenny Frankel said “stay in your own lane!”

6.)  TRY SOMETHING NEW,  ALWAYS

I feel that mixing it up on your blog keeps things interesting and as a blogger and blog reader myself, I know I prefer reading blogs that cover an array of different topics. If you feel like your fashion or beauty blog is becoming a bit dull, why not introduce a new topic? People love newness and generally enjoy seeing people dipping their toes into unusual and interesting subjects. I’ve said this a million times before but you can blog about anything and everything. Whatever your interests are, you can make a blog out of it. Don’t be afraid to try something out for a while and if you feel like it hasn’t taken off, it’s okay to pull back from it – at least you gave it a go!

Obviously this is a list of things that I need to work on daily because I’m not perfect by any means & need daily reminders. Really, it just kind of helps to write these reminders down! I’m not preaching, just sharing…again, do what works for you!

Off to celebrate!! Now, lets pop the CHAMPS!!!! 🙂

Brittany 🙂

 

  • Happy birthday!! This blog post totally spoke to my heart… I always try to remember that everyone is going through something I know nothing about. It definitely helps with the patience part too 🙂

    • Totally.. I try to remember that even when I’m so frustrated or annoyed. You just never know… Happy Monday! 😉

  • Happy Birthday! I totally agree with all of these, but I love the be gracious, be kind and be humble. Especially important to remember during the holiday season! Enjoy your day celebrating!

    xo, Rachel
    A Blonde’s Moment

  • Happy birthday, gorgeous! I hope you have the best day ever!

    I love this post…you hit the nail on the head. A little bit of something we all need to work on.
    xo, Lily
    Beauty With Lily

    • Awww thanks so much!!! It all def ties together but I would say these are the things I always try to remember!! 🙂

  • Happy happy day beauty! I hope you have a fabulous day! And right on! This post is so true! <3

    • Thanks girl!!! It was hard to skim it down to 6 but I would these are my most learned 🙂

  • I’m still paying for the hard lesson credit cards taught me. I’ve been making better decisions and working to pay down instead of add to. I’m making progress! The Don’t Be An Asshole is hilarious and so FREAKING true. These are great pieces of advice. I hope you’ve had a wonderful birthday! I am so glad you were born 🙂

    • Yes girl… My credit card debt haunts me but I know I HAVE to pay it off!! Discipline is my worst enemy lol – Thanks for the wishes sister 🙂

  • Shannon Jenkins

    Happy birthday!!!! I hope you are having a great day! Yes to all of your what you learned! Luckily I was raised by a very strict dad when it came to money so it basically was drilled in my head on how to budget and use credit cards properly haha! I bow down to him now for it!

    <3 Shannon
    Upbeat Soles

    • Thanks Shannon! It was a great day… You are one lucky lady when it comes to discipline. I have ZERO!! MY husband has definitely changed my outlook on finances so I have some concept of saving 🙂

  • Love it! Hope you had a marvelous birthday!!!

    • Thanks lady… It was pretty great!!! 🙂

  • Happy Birthday!

  • Happy, happy birthday! All of these are so true, from don’t be an asshole to you never know what someone else is going through…

    thanks for the reminders! 🙂

    alyson
    http://www.theaveragegirlsguide.com

    • Thanks so much girl… I have to remind myself of these everyday! Have a great week 🙂

  • Happy Birthday! These are all great things to keep in mind 🙂

  • Hope you had such an amazing birthday! These are all lessons that I’ve learned and am still learning! I love the lesson about not judging someone when you don’t know their situation! It’s so important to always be compassionate!

    http://www.rosyoutlookblog.com

    • Totally agree!! I always try to remember this when I get angry or frustrated.. You just never know! Thanks for the wishes 🙂

  • Happy happy birthday! Such a great list, love trying new things and you definitely cannot change people or the ridiculous haters. Pop all the champs <3
    Green Fashionista

  • Love these learning lessons! They really come out as tips depending on how you think about them. I agree most with your lesson about not trying to change people. That’s probably the hardest for me too but “staying in my own lane” definitely acts as a perfect reminder!

    Danielle | FollowMyGut.com <3

    • Thanks girl!!! I have to remind myself of these all the time… Stay in your lane is my life motto 🙂

  • Happy Birthday girl! Loved reading these life lessons!

    xO – Steph
    http://www.UrbanBlonde.com

  • Happy Birthday! These life advices are SO ON POINT!!

  • Happy belated Birthday! You are so right about everything, you mentioned. Hope, you had a fabulous birthday. xx
    Nina
    Nina’s Style Blog _ enter to win $60 Giveaway

  • Hillary @ Style in a Small Town

    I LOVE this post! First of all, happy belated birthday and secondly, I’ve really been trying to be more patient with people and not losing my cool too. Because really all it does is upset me and then starts a chain of ruining everyone’s day! Hope you had a good one, lady!

    ~Hillary
    http://www.styleinasmalltown.com

    • Thanks girl… I totally agree!! I always try to remember this with my own kids. I have to remember patience is the key to a happy home 🙂

  • Such a great list. I try to remember a lot of these things everyday, but it can be hard, we all get caught up sometimes. I hope you had the best week of birthday celebrations!!! 🙂

  • Thanks for sharing. I love the champagne photo. 😉